Mother Nature and the female body is truly amazing and sadly far too often I hear mums beating themselves up about the way they look both during pregnancy, whilst their body shape is changing and also once their bubs have arrived.

Embracing the change

I think it’s time that we embrace these natural changes and learn to love our bodies for what they have created.  Yes you put on weight, yes your bum and boobs changed, yet look what you now have; when you gaze at your child in awe know that they were possible because of you.  Your baby doesn’t care if you have now got extra stretch marks, folds or cellulite, they need and love you just the way you are.

Learning to be comfortable in your own skin can take time and it’s easier to build your own self confidence by doing the things you love, plus remember to make the effort with yourself as well to feel good.  Yes, I know some days the old baggy clothes and hair pulled back look is the easiest and quickest option, but ensure that this doesn’t become the everyday choice.

baby body

Many women focus on getting their pre baby body back which I feel can set you up for disappointment or feelings of failure if you can’t get back into your jeans.  Your body is different now. It has created and delivered a baby and your shape changes during this process so the focus should be on getting your new post baby body instead.

Honour your body, honour yourself

I encourage all the mums I work with to honour themselves, to respect and love who they are, no matter how they look.  Your baby loves and adores you so spend some time looking at yourself through their eyes.  Think about the way you talk to yourself, if you heard your child saying negative things about themselves what would you say to them?  Would you allow it?  Of course not so why do it to yourself?

Author CJ’s Fitbumps – CJ is a pre and postnatal holistic health coach, group exercise instructor, personal trainer, nutrition expert and author of The Winning Physique. She provides specialist pre and post natal fitness classes and coaching at Riverside Ice and Leisure as well as offers one to one personalised health coaching programs lifestyle consultations and personal training. Find me at, email me via or call me 07557683770.